Betrayal is an enormous threat to the safety and security of any important relationship. The rupture of the attachment bond in a couple in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL, can often be long lasting and can be viewed both emotionally and neurologically as trauma.
Couples often come to therapy at Star Point Counseling Center in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL, when a betrayal has either been discovered or revealed. Feelings range from anger, to confusion, to shame, to fear, to grief. Sometimes couples question if there is the possibility of hope. Also, sometimes couples have tried to deal with the betrayal on their own for a while, believing that there has been forgiveness, hoping that they could go “back to normal”, and finding that nothing feels normal.
Betrayal impacts our brain in such a way that we are forced to re-evaluate history. Partners are left with the questions: who am I? who are we? how do we understand our history together now?
Couples can work through and recover from the painful injury of betrayal/ infidelity with a skilled couples therapist at Star Point Counseling Center in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL. They have the best chance if:
the “betrayer” shows regret and remorse
there is full transparency
both partners do want to get back into the relationship
In the first phase of couples therapy at Star Point Counseling Center in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL, the reality of the betrayal as trauma to the betrayed partner must be addressed. This trauma, like any other, cannot be erased, and must be allowed to metabolize in its own time. Although it is temporary (hopefully), the “betrayer” has no power to negotiate.
After couples therapy in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL, the relationship is not what it was before. It is something newly created by the couple in their work together. Remembering that they are in each other’s care is essential to the continuing health of the relationship.
Star Point Counseling Center in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL, is constantly touched and inspired by people’s ability to work together creatively and collaboratively, with love, to make their relationship more and more securely functioning even with the traumatic experience of betrayal.