The key to co-parenting is to focus on your child and your child only. This can be very difficult at times. It means that your own emotions, anger, or resentment is set aside. Co-parenting is about your child’s happiness, stability and future well being. It is ok to be hurt and angry but your feelings don’t have to dictate your behavior. Here are some tips for communicating with an ex:
Make sure never to vent to your child and to get your feelings out somewhere else, for example a close friend or therapist.
Never use your kid as the messenger, this will put him or her in the center of the conflict.
Use a business-like tone with your ex and set the boundaries. Be cordial, respectful, and use a neutral tone.
Be sure to listen. Even if you do not agree, communicating with maturity starts with listening. Listening foes not signify approval but is necessary to understand the other person’s point of view.
Lastly, keep the conversations kid-focused and about your child’s needs.
At Star Point Counseling Center, we understand the challenges that come with a divorce and want to help you make adjustments to the changes that occur when families are split up. If you are having trouble with your ex or need communication or patenting techniques please visit our website starpointcounselingtampa.com or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.