Our relationship with our spouse/partner is one of the closest relationships we will have in life. The connection that bonds us together can be likened in depth and intensity to the parent-child bond as it is similarly built on safety, intimacy, affection, support and comfort.
RELATIONSHIPS WITH OUR PARTNERS
No wonder it hurts so much when it is threatened with conflict. Partners often respond differently to conflict. One may become closed off or withdrawn while the other anxiously attempts to talk the problem out. These responses often become a pattern used to reduce tension and stabilize the relationship, however, it rarely works and tends to fuel conflict causing the relationship to become stuck.
When your relationship becomes stuck, you may have a hard time feeling close and enjoying your time with each other. Many couples find themselves repeating the same arguments, but never coming to an understanding. Sometimes disagreements spiral out of control and create new areas of conflict or wounds. Feeling misunderstood, judged, criticized, unloved or cared for can cause the relationship to lose it’s spark and cause partners to become emotionally withdrawn from one another.
Small issue turns to a major argument
Feel ignored, unheard and frustrated
Feel judged, hurt or rejected
Arguments do not lead to solutions
Missing closeness and intimacy
Feel misunderstood and alone
Have trouble communicating with each other
Disagreements leave you feeling resentful
Disappointed the relationship is not what you expected
HOW RELATIONSHIP COUNSELING CAN HELP AT STAR POINT COUNSELING CENTER IN TAMPA FL, AND BRANDON FL.
If this sounds familiar, you are not alone and there is good reason to hope. With relationship counseling in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL, commitment and hard work, you and your partner can get back on track and rebuild a loving, close relationship.
Many couples come into therapy at Star Point Counseling Center in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL, because of problems with communication, not feeling heard or understood by one another. What we know is that couples tend to develop a pattern of communication they use to discuss upsetting issues. We will work to figure out the what the pattern is and dig deeper to understand the affect it has on each one of you. You will learn to identify the pattern that is intensifying the conflict and be able to change it when it occurs. You will learn how to express your feelings and needs without causing the other to become reactive or withdrawn. The skills you develop will help you feel more secure and safe when discussing conflicts. Together, you will identify what each other needs to feel important, loved and cared for so that you can have a strong, trusting connection that will naturally bring back the closeness you desire.