Still not sure how to broach the subject? Star Point Counseling Center in Tampa Fl, and Brandon Fl, has a four-step approach.
Start by asking for a container to talk. For example, Hey, I wanna chat with you about our relationship and some of the communication issues we’ve been having. When is a good time?
Once you’ve created the container and are within it, it’s time to acknowledge your concerns. [Start with] I know that __________—this is to let your partner know that you understand the landscape of what’s going on; it names the elephant in the room. For example, you might say, I know we haven’t had sex in three months or I know we’ve tossed around the idea of going to couples therapy in Tampa Fl, and Brandon Fl, but we haven’t really pulled the trigger.
After acknowledging, explain how it makes you feel. Use this format: I feel __________ [emotion] when/that __________ [action/context for emotion], Wright instructs. For example, I feel scared when we don’t communicate effectively or hear each other well. or I feel worried that if we don’t go to therapy together that we’ll wind up building resentment.
Lastly, offer up a solution. You could say, What I’d love to do is… or What I see as a potential step forward is… followed by What do you think? or how does that sound? For example, I’d love to call a few therapists in Tampa Fl, and Brandon Fl, and set up consultations for us, how does that sound? or What I see as a potential step forward is scheduling time for our physical intimacy on the calendar. What do you think?
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